Christobal Griese

It’s hard to set boundaries because the only pain worse than being hurt by people, is being shown the pain that you’ve caused to others. Boundaries are not an attack, they are a mirror. And just because you’re the one holding up the mirror as a shield, that does not mean it’s your pain to carry. If you’re considering setting boundaries with someone close to you, you’re likely feeling attacked and looking for a way to start playing defense against stonewalling, criticism, defensiveness, or...

If the key to a good relationship was communication, then why do you keep having the same fight? You’ve probably been hit with the cliche, “communication is key,” and that’s generally good advice, but I think we can agree that sometimes our language causes more harm than good, especially during conflict. So what do we do when our words aren’t enough? We need to understand that even though a picture is worth 1000 words, 1000 words will never give us the full picture. So when we keep trying to...

So I hear you have a crush on someone! Things are going pretty well between you. I mean... you're getting married! Let me be the first to say congratulations. As a relationship counselor, I believe in love, but I'm also a pretty big skeptic. A lot of engaged couples know that "marriage takes work" and that the "honeymoon phase will wear off." I'm sure other people around you seem to think they know more about your relationship than you do. I'm not going to pretend to understand your...